Woman expects brother to pay $50K per year for niece’s education

Aabha Gopan
2 min readSep 22, 2022

Should one ever expect their sibling to help them financially?

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Financially toxic people can use a person’s money on themselves and expect other people to cover their costs. Some family members might fall under this category and keep requesting money.

This topic was highlighted in a recent Reddit post in which a single man refuses to pay $50K yearly for his niece’s college despite earning $700K per year.

Man refuses to pay his niece’s college tuition

The author, a 40-year-old man, starts the post by saying that his niece started attending a school in another state. He makes $700K per year and doesn’t have a wife or child. He has spent on his parents and done favors for other family members when necessary.

At the beginning of the year, the author was invited to a celebration thrown for his niece, Brynn, by her parents for getting into her dream university. During the celebration, his sister (Brynn’s mother) asked him personally how much he would pay for Brynn’s tuition. The author was surprised because no one had told him that he was supposed to contribute to his niece’s education. He also didn’t promise he would pay.

Apparently, Brynn’s education would cost a little over $50K per year and her parents were thinking he would help. The author refused to contribute even though he felt bad that this came up when they were celebrating her getting into the university.

The author’s parents, sister, brother-in-law, and Brynn nagged him to pay after that. But the author is frugal and doesn’t spend over $50K annually on his expense or doesn’t want to spend so much on his niece’s education.

The author thought that everything will go back to normal after Brynn started classes. But he still hears snide remarks when he visits his sister or parents.

What do you think? Should the author pay $50K for his niece’s education? Share your thoughts below.